Women often complain that there aren’t any good men nowadays. Guys are full of games and only want to play with a woman’s feelings, women tell themselves.
But is this true? Are men full of games?
In this article, I will explain why men play with a woman’s feelings? How to know when a guy is playing with your feelings? How to keep a man from playing with you emotionally?
Why Do Men Play With Your Feelings?
Guys can play with your feelings for various reasons, sometimes intentionally and other times unintentionally. Here are the 4 most common reasons men play with a woman’s feelings.
1. Misguided Masculinity
There are a lot of guys that believe men play with women’s emotions because that’s just part of being a man.
These men have grown up thinking men should play games. For example, if all his childhood friends treated women poorly and there wasn’t an older male to show him how to treat a woman – he’ll grow up thinking this behavior is okay.
2. He wants you to chase him.
Many times when a guy plays with your feelings. He is doing it to get you to chase him.
He’s playing hard-to-get. He doesn’t want you to know how much he’s into you. So he sends you mixed signals and plays with your feelings.
His hope is that you will pursue him, but NEVER chase a man. Women who chase men create guys that give minimal effort.
3. He hasn’t seen an example of a healthy relationship.
Many men have never seen anyone they know in a healthy relationship. Think about that for a second.
Maybe he grew up in a single-parent household, his father wasn’t around, and his mother had toxic relationships.
Not the most ideal environment for a young man to grow up in, especially when he is going through puberty.
Imagine having a crush on a girl and not knowing how a boy should treat a girl, let alone have a healthy relationship.
So most guys develop how to treat a woman based on what they have seen from their parents and friends, even if the examples are unhealthy.
4. He has been taught by women to mistreat women.
These guys were actually once nice guys that have been hurt by a woman. They were either cheated on or experienced the shortcomings of being a nice guy.
The nice guy role has never worked out for these men, so they have embraced the bad boy role.
And they have noticed that women respond to the guys that play with a woman’s feelings and play games.
How do you know when a man is playing with your feelings?
There are many ways to tell if a guy is playing with your emotions; here are the 3 common signs he’s playing with your feelings.
1. He tells you he’s sorry, but he doesn’t change.
Pay attention to your man when he does something in the relationship he has to apologize to you for.
Someone serious about you will be sincere in their apology and make an effort not to repeat the behavior.
But a guy playing with your emotions will apologize but repeat the act. Their sorry lacks sincerity, and his unwillingness to change shows how little he cares for your feelings.
2. He acts like he doesn’t care.
Guys that act like they don’t care want to get a reaction out of you. He is trying to see if you are into him.
Once he knows just how much you like him, he will use your feelings for him to his advantage.
He’ll test you when a guy knows you’re head over heels for him. He wants to see how much you will allow out of him before saying no.
He will invite you to his house to Netflix and chill; it’s a game for him. He’s playing with your emotions.
3. His words and actions don’t line up.
A clear sign a man is playing with your feelings is his words and actions don’t line up.
I tell women to listen to the words a man tells them but focus on his actions.
Guys are known to say what a woman wants to hear to win her over. Men who are serious about you will line up their words and actions
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If he tells you he cares for you, a guy who is not playing with your heart will act in a way that shows you he cares.
For example, he will call when he says he will call. If it’s late when you leave your date with him, he’ll call to make sure you got home safe.
When a guy’s actions don’t line up with his words, he’s just playing with your feelings.
How to Keep a Man from Playing with Your Emotions?
You mustn’t accept his games if you don’t want a man playing with your emotions.
I believe that people must show others how to treat them. So early into a developing relationship or dating, there are a few things you should not do.
- Do not play games back with him; no tick for tack. This shows him that you’re into games.
- Don’t complain about his behavior. Complaining only lets a guy know that he’s playing effects you emotionally.
- Don’t show your disappointment in his game playing in any way. Ignore him when he’s playing with your feelings. You do not want to reward bad behavior.
You teach him how to treat you by not talking to him or spending time with him when he plays with you.
NEVER condone negative behavior for a guy.
If a guy says he will call at 8 pm and instead calls you at 10 pm, don’t talk to him.
The following day, text him, saying, “sorry I missed your call, but I expected to hear from you at 8 pm. I was asleep by 10 pm.”
Your response will show him that he should call when he says.
You are responsible for rewarding a guy for good behavior. For example, if he plans the date or shows up when he says he will spend time with him.
A guy’s reward is your presence in his company.
Many women accept poor treatment from men because they’re emotionally invested in a man. You should first vet a guy to be sure he is worth being in your life.
The Takeaway
I’ve answered the following questions in this article: Why do men play with a woman’s feelings? How to know when a guy is playing with your feelings? and how to keep a man from playing with you emotionally?
Now it’s time for you to apply what you’ve learned. The next time a guy tries to play with your feelings, ignore his games. And show him how to treat you.
Check out my article Why Do Guys Manipulate Women if you liked this post.
And the tactics some men use to manipulate you.
