Have you ever seen a woman with a man and thought to yourself, he is out of her league? What is he doing with her? What does he see in her? Or what do men want in a woman?
Good men don’t choose women based on beauty alone. If that were true, then every beautiful woman would have a good man.
There are more important factors than beauty, sexual experience, and even ambition that men value more in a woman.
Do you want to know what men want in a woman?
Here are three things men want in a woman.
Men desire a woman’s respect and appreciation
Men want a woman that respects them. A man values a woman that will respect his judgment, his abilities, and his accomplishments. Nothing turns a man off faster than a woman that doesn’t respect him.
If you’ve ever dated a man with the ambition to pursue a goal you thought was beyond his skills and abilities, the worst thing you can do as his woman, suggests that he pursue a different goal or not support him because you don’t believe he can achieve it.
All men want to prove – to themselves – that they can achieve a goal on their own. To a man, there is no greater feeling than to have accomplished a goal, and his woman notices with appreciation.
Also, it’s important that you communicate with your man respectfully. Women can have sharp tongues and the way you speak to your man can cut deep. Even if it’s unintentional, a man may interpret what you say negatively. For instance, let’s say you are having issues with your car and you tell your boyfriend. He suggests that you bring the car to his house. So he can take a look at it. And you reply with “no, I’ll have a mechanic look at it, you’re not a car guy.”
Without realizing it, you have just disrespected your boyfriend. Your man was attempting to earn brownie points with you and possibly save you some money in the process.
A better option is to take your man up on his offer and take your car to his house. You have nothing to lose. He could either fix your car and save you some cash or he can’t and it has to be seen by a mechanic. Either way, with this option your man will feel respected. He will appreciate that you allowed him to look at your car.
With this single act, your man will grow closer to you.
Men like women with Self-Confidence
Men want a woman with high self-esteem. Most men may not realize this but being with a woman with high self-esteem or a positive self-image creates a more satisfying relationship.
It has been proven that a person’s level of self-esteem prior to entering a relationship predicts a partner’s relationship satisfaction. In other words, if you have high self-esteem or a positive self-image you are more likely to have a lasting and satisfying relationship.
Women that have a positive view of themselves know their worth and often appreciate a great relationship because they know they’re worthy of one.
I have never heard a man say “I want a woman with low self-esteem.” Good men avoid insecure women like the plague.
Most men believe women with low self-image are controlling, needy, and codependent. I had a girlfriend once that was very insecure. She questioned everything I did and accused me of cheating.
One day I was working late – so I called her to let her know that I would be home late. She immediately began questioning me and asked if I was the only person in the office? I said, “no, there was another woman in the office with me, Wendy.” Wendy was happily married. When I got home we had a huge fight over this. Needless to say, the relationship didn’t last.
If you are a woman with low self-esteem – develop friendships with people that build you up. Seek professional counseling to figure out the root cause of your issues.
Men want a woman that is direct
Men want a woman that knows how to communicate – with men.
Communication is vital to a healthy relationship. But most women go about communicating with men the wrong way.
For example, when you want to have a conversation with your man, never say “we need to talk.” Men will see this as negative and think to themselves “What did I do wrong?”
Instead, tell your man what it is you want to talk about. A lot of men want women that are direct in their communication style. Men are looking for a woman to tell them what she wants, instead of intuitively knowing.
If you had a terrible day at work and you want to vent, tell your man you’re just venting before the conversation. Otherwise, he’ll be trying to solve your problem.
Frequently – women will be in a relationship with a man they know and love very much and expect him to read their minds. If you’ve ever gotten upset with your boyfriend for not massaging your back after a long day because he should’ve seen you needed one – shame on you.
To avoid hurt feelings and misunderstandings, be direct, and communicate clearly with men.
Enclosing
Good men want more than a woman with beautiful measurements. Every man looks for a different quality – but every man wants a woman that respects them, has a positive self-image and is direct.
So – the next time you see a woman with a man that is out of her league ask yourself – how does she make him feel?
Chances are – she makes him feel respected, loved, and appreciated.
Now that you know the 3 qualities men look for in a woman. Check out my post, How to attract a Man Emotionally and develop an emotional bond with your man.
