Do you catch your man constantly looking at other women? Do you want to know why he’s always gawking at every beautiful woman when he is with you?
Before you end a promising relationship, it might not be the act of blatant disrespect you think it is.
While a wandering eye is certainly not good for most relationships, understanding why men glance at other women might make things more peaceful at home.
The 3 main reasons why men look at other women
Guys get so much grief about gazing at girls, and it’s not always fair. Granted, it doesn’t make his woman feel very good about herself. However, these three causes for his wandering eye might help put some things into perspective:
#1. He couldn’t help it.
Chances are, your man looked at another woman without even thinking about it because he can’t help it.
Men are programmed to look.
According to science, men are hard-wired to check out a beautiful woman instinctively. From a biological perspective, men are programmed to spread their genes as far and as wide as possible to ensure the survival of their genes.
We also enjoy looking at attractive women. The moment we see an attractive woman, our brains flood us with dopamine giving us a surge of pleasure. If you add serotonin to the mix, glancing at a beautiful woman can be mood-altering and men are addicted.
Meaning you’ll most likely catch your man peeking at the opposite sex from time to time.
#2. Men Look at Other Women because They are visual creatures inspired by a woman’s beauty.
As sentient human beings, men have a natural attraction to beautiful novelty. Basically, we are drawn to the new and different. Men can be attracted to many different women with many different physical attributes – an attractive shape, a nice butt, or large breasts.
Men are visual beings that like to look at what the world offers and then use its inspiring shapes and figures to formulate new ideas. Some of the world’s greatest artists created masterpieces inspired by the beauty and appeal of a woman.
For guys, looking at a beautiful woman is like siphoning nature’s fuel for motivation and inspiration. For women, that means catching your man staring at another woman.
#3. Sometimes Men Look at Other Women by accident.
In rare cases, a man will get exposed to images of other women or actual women themselves. Through no fault or act of their own, they are then forced to look – think movies, TV, magazines, advertisements.
After all, the world is filled with lustful imagery, so your man is bound to see something attractive at some point.
Keep in mind that men are all different, so some may have their own unique reasons for looking at the opposite sex.
How to deal with your man’s wandering eye?
Yes, it makes you feel some type of way about your own appearance, but your man’s wandering eye is no indication that he wants to end the relationship. In fact, a majority of guys say that they don’t even think about trading their current partner for someone else just because of physical attraction.
Instead, most men think nothing of it and just continue with their day after seeing someone hot. They do not dwell, and they seldom fantasize about sex acts or other forms of infidelity. So, if you catch your man looking at someone else in lust, try not to think too much about it.
Don’t react impulsively, yelling at him will only make things worse. And attempting to point out a flaw in the other woman will only backfire on you. Because your man isn’t going to care and it will make you look insecure.
Alternatively, determine if your relationship is actually in trouble. Ask yourself if there are signs that your man isn’t happy?
If your man glances at women are subtle and there is no disrespect intended. It’s time, to be honest with yourself. Is it your problem?
Are you projecting your insecurities on his innocent actions? If you are, focus on working on yourself to understand why you project your feelings on him.
How to address the issue?
After you have determined that you aren’t the problem but your man is disrespectful when he looks at other women, it’s time to raise the issue. How you bring this to your man’s attention is very important. You don’t want to raise the issue when you are upset.
If you engage your man while you’re emotional and not in control an innocent conversation can quickly turn into an argument and cause your man to shut down.
Instead approach your man at a relaxed place and time when you have his full attention, maybe while cuddled on the couch. Smile and ask “What was it about that woman that caught your eye?”
If you approach the issue from a place of learning, your man will most likely think to himself and answer the question rather than become defensive and shut down.
Tell him how you feel when he looks at other women. Explain to him that you feel unattractive when you see him looking at other girls, taking responsibility for your feelings. Don’t say “You make me feel ugly.” That response would cause him to become defensive and turn an open discussion into an argument.
I will not say this approach is guaranteed to work or your man won’t look at another woman again but at the very least you should be heard and treated with respect.
The final verdict
Men look at women for many reasons, and it’s not always because they want to have sex with someone else or cheat on you. Looking at hot women is natural and an innocent reflex for many men.
Because of how male brains are formed, it’s almost impossible for them to avoid looking at the opposite sex. Therefore, the behavior is not a good reason to suspect infidelity, commitment issues, or a loss of love.
Instead, if you have an issue with your partner looking at other women, determine if there is a deeper issue in your relationship and address the issue with your man from a place of learning.
Accept the realities of a man’s nature, if your man isn’t intending to hurt you when he sees an attractive woman, and your man is happy in your relationship, let it go.