The 6 Ways to Deal With a Guy That Plays Hard-to-get With You

Most dating advice nowadays advises women to play hard-to-get to get the guy they want.

Be a challenge, so he values and appreciates you, dating coaches will tell you.

Yet, women aren’t the only ones playing hard-to-get; men are getting in on this tactic.

So, how do you deal with a guy that’s playing hard-to-get with you?

In this post, I will share the 6 ways a Guy will Play Hard-to-get with you and show you how to handle each technique. 

That way, you turn the table and have him chasing after you.

A guy playing hard-to-get will use this approach when he initially meets you.

He will entice you into falling for him by being very charming and charismatic. Conversations will be exciting, and he will blow you away on a date.

But once he knows he has you hooked and wanting more, he’ll back off. He’s hoping that you will chase him.

So, how should you handle a guy that tries this with you?

You should back off the guy. Do not give in to his game and chase him. I know it is easier said than done, especially when he has your full attention. 

But chasing him is what he wants from you. Don’t feed his ego. Ignore him and give your attention to someone new.

This approach is taught by pickup artists. The idea is attractive women aren’t used to being made fun of and will get a little insecure.

This will signal to the woman, or you, that this guy is an alpha male, and she will be attracted to him. This is a very immature approach. A guy that takes this approach is into game and pickup.

That should be a red flag, that he isn’t worth your time.

Here’s what you should do. Completely ignore the guy’s teasing or give it back to him if you have a good comeback. Once he realizes that this approach didn’t work, he’ll stop.

The guy comes to your friends, rather than you, because he wants your friends to think he’s a great guy.

He’s hoping your friends will like him and for you to find him attractive as a result. Basically, he’s using the peer pressure of your friends to get you to fall for him. Again, this guy wants you to chase him.

Don’t play his game. Playfully, let him know that he has to work a lot harder to win you over. And challenge him to step up. If he doesn’t, entertain other men in front of him. This will get him to compete.

Guys pretend to be busy, so women will think they are important.

In terms of dating, we assume busy people have high mate value and demand. So, men act preoccupied, so you will want them more.

If the guy you’re talking to is always busy or hard to reach, this is what you should do. Don’t call or text him. Give him space.

Give him time to miss you. When he reaches out to you, stay cool and calm. DO NOT give him any indication that his plan worked.

Stay calm on the phone with him. When he asks you out, tell him that you would’ve gone out with him if he had called you sooner. But since you had not heard from him, you made other plans.

This response will show him that his game backfired and caused him to lose out on you.

He’ll attempt this if you have gotten intimate with the guy, and he’s trying to be hard-to-get.

Guys know that intimacy is emotional for women. Men know you’re really into them if you’ve had sex. And they will use this as an opportunity to make you chase them.

So, here’s what you should do. After you have slept with a guy, he refuses to show you any affection or intimacy.

Stay calm. If you’re out with your guy at a club, interact with the other club-goers. Have a great time meeting new people.

At the end of the night, get into your car and leave. Do not give him any affection. No hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back.

If you do this, the guy will realize he overplayed his hand. Don’t be surprised if you receive a call from him in the morning, apologizing.

Men that withhold sex or affection are insecure. Your best approach is to remain confident, calm, and ignore his behavior. 

Women often complain about men that seem to be hot and cold. These guys behave this way to confuse you.

One minute the guy is hot. He is all over you, giving compliments, planning dates, and being affectionate.

And the next minute, he is cold. He’s hard to reach on the phone, he doesn’t answer your texts, and he doesn’t spend time with you.

When a guy is running hot and cold, he’s behaving this way so he can keep you around while he dates other women. This is the classic string you on technique. 

You want to do this when a guy is running hot and cold. Back off the guy. When he runs hot on you, and he wants to see you. 

Let him know you can’t because when he was running cold and out of the picture, you were asked out by another guy.

This will throw his game off, and you would have him chasing you.

Now that you have learned the 6 ways guys will play hard to get with you. 

And you know how to deal with their tactics. It’s time to apply what you’ve learned.

If you enjoyed this post, I think you will like my post, “How Playing Hard-to-get Can Work Effortlessly on Any Guy.”

In this post, you will learn the correct way to play hard-to-get to attract the man of your dreams.