When two individuals are together, their hearts yearn to know what the other person thinks of them truly; are they only together for sex, or is there more to that?
However, spending some quality time is vital and perfectly sufficient compared to just having sex to get to know which place you hold.
You will come across numerous women who fret that a guy might just be using them. They believe that the men will only see them as toys.
Unfortunately, several men only view women as sex toys.
However, in this article, we will point out signs that a man only wants to sleep with you and how to get a man to see you as more than just a one-night stand.
Let’s delve in!
Why do guys only want to sleep with you?
There are plenty of men who believe that they can easily have sex without being committed to a relationship, and it’s for this reason, they have decided that all they want in women is to sleep with them.
Others lack emotional depth and can’t handle a meaningful relationship that goes beyond sex.
Note: If you want to learn what sex really means to men read my post “What Sex Means to Men: From a Guy’s Perspective.
So, if a woman agrees to sex, the guy gets all the power in that relationship; at this point, the man will not be interested in any emotional responsibility in a connection.
Therefore, if the man can access easy sex without connecting emotionally, it tends to be a dream scenario.
What are some signs a guy wants to get in your pants?
Once a man falls in love, he will have no sex with the other party and stick around. While he sticks around, he will be emotionally attracted and faithful to that one person.
However, those interested in sexual favors will avoid such situations.
Here are signs that a man wants to get in your pants;
They are always holding sexual talks.
Here are men who will call you, and regardless of your topic, the only conversation they hold turns sexual.
You might be telling him about your day at work or a presentation you successfully submitted and gave you milestones and what he asks is whether the client made sexual advances.
And the moment you tell him your day has been long and that you are looking forward to soaking in a tub, he quickly suggests if he could come over.
In such cases, you could tell him that what turns you on is a conversation that doesn’t always involve sex.
You get intimate too soon.
Making out is an integral part of your relationship, but do you have to jump into it too soon? Keep in mind that if he barely talks to you, he hasn’t invested his feelings in you. It’s that simple.
It’s evident that he is attracted to you, but probably physically! So, you need to ensure he is moved by the inner you before going any further.
Note that having sex with a man right away after dating for a short period will clearly show you are not in to settle down.
It’s advisable to know them first before getting in bed together. You might have probably met in a bar and hooked up the same night; the guy will not take you as a potential girlfriend.
It would be best to slow down on such behavior the next time you come across a person you like and first get to know the person on a deeper level.
Your physical looks attract him.
While some men are quick to compliment your outer appearance or how terrible you look, a woman wants to be loved and adored for her inner qualities as well.
You will realize that those interested in being committed to you will always notice your great attributes such as values, sense of humor, or intelligence.
On the flip side, those interested in sleeping with you will only focus on your outer beauty, like how beautiful you look or your hot ass in a dress.
The next time a guy comments about the exterior looks, ask him to mention a few of your inner qualities in such a situation.
He prefers to meet at home.
First, he might ask you for a date together in some comfortable places, but afterward, it changes to either your home or theirs. Why?
It’s easy to have sex at home than in a public place. In such a way, the man will put in very little energy and time.
Note that the majority of men will often put so little effort into getting laid.
But for a man interested in and sees you as a potential girlfriend, he will go with you everywhere and do everything together. If not, he only wants to meet you at home.
How to get a guy to want you for more than sex?
There is nothing as interesting as meeting someone and having mutual chemistry towards each other. It’s the excitement of a love connection.
The similar values and stimulating conversation you share give you a significant reason to believe that that’s a person you will enjoy spending life with.
Date a man with the same interest as you
It’s a dating tactic that is usually overlooked and ignored. It would be best if you always looked for people who are looking for serious relationships.
It should not be the kind of people on Tinder but the type who wants to know you and are interested in you and not just the body.
Complimenting the man
It’s something that will make him remember you forever. Similarly to women, men will love compliments too.
However, it would be best if you did not lay the praise on how thick one is; it looks disingenuous. You like that person; therefore, it will be easy to compliment them in that line.
From his sense of fashion, taste in music to his overall interests. You can pick either and let them know you appreciate that about them.
A genuine compliment validates and makes him feel great about himself.
Once again, the man gets to associate the moment and feeling with you.
And if you are in the early stages of knowing each other, casual compliments could be an essential ice-breaker.
Have your own life.
It’s the most counterintuitive and misunderstood advice that you need to have as a woman.
Having one’s life means that you should have your interests besides being around your man all the time. It involves things such as activities, hobbies, and friends that you are really into.
Your man doesn’t have to be interested in those things.
There are multiple reasons why having your own life is paramount.
Let him know that you enjoy his presence and company, but you should show him that you don’t need him. It makes the man respect you even more.
Those who desperately need and drop their lives on men make him not work hard on the respect and love, and once it happens, the man loses the care for you.
Be fun around the man.
It’s among the key factors that you need to learn while around a man.
You should figure out ways that are fun to do with a man; with that, he will see you as more than a sex toy. Looks do indeed matter, but they will only get your foot on the door.
Therefore, once you begin to converse with a guy, and it appears that you are boring, he will hastily lose interest.
But if you are more fun, he definitely will keep the chats up and even want to hang out with you more.
Men who talk about feelings
Though a man can’t talk about his feelings directly, the secret is that they will try to use actions to show that they mean more than a one-night hookup.
To get to know about their feelings, ask them what their romantic weekend would look like or perhaps how they felt the first day you met.
Their answers will show how they feel and tend even to bring you closer.
Men will say ‘I Love You’ using Actions.
Some men prefer revealing their feelings via actions rather than using words.
A man will tell you they love and adore you while they fix things in your home, for instance, cleaning up the yard, trimming the fence, or taking trash out- things that make your world the most fantastic place.
Take away
At times it’s best when you hold a conversation with a man. You both should know your intentions before going further and probably torturing your emotions if things fail to work as expected.
For that, tell the man that sex is great, but it’s just a bonus to his excellent personality, and you intend to have more than that with him.
Mostly, men will be astonished by that bold move as an addition to flattering him.
On the other hand, if the intention is not to settle down, you could as well lay everything out to clear the air.
Let them know all you want is sex and nothing beyond that.
With that, you will understand the reason for your connection from the early stages.
However, you might end up having your emotional connection as default, something so valuable in a relationship.
