Getting to know a new guy is exciting. It feels great knowing a man finds you attractive and wants to bond with you.
These feelings of excitement and attraction can sometimes cause you to move too quickly, and you end up sleeping with the guy too soon.
Now this great guy seems to be cooling on you. The only time he sees you is if sex is involved.
Don’t panic! In this article, I will answer the question: Does Sleeping with a guy too soon Ruin a Potential Relationship?
I’ll also show you how to keep a guy interested if you slept with him on the first date.
Does Sleeping With a Guy Too Soon Ruin a Potential Relationship?
Whether you have a one-night stand or decide to sleep with a man after a few dates, giving a guy sex too soon is a slippery slope.
Depending on your goals for a relationship, sleeping with a guy too soon can ruin a potential relationship.
I say sex too early with a guy can ruin a potential relationship if a relationship is what you want from a man. Sleeping with a man too soon can make a man think you have sex with every guy you meet, so he won’t take you seriously.
If you want a serious relationship, sleeping with a guy too soon will ruin a potential relationship.
Honestly, every man wants a woman he has to invest in to win over. When you have sex with a man without his investment, he’ll only want you for sex. That’s how you become a late-night booty call.
However, if you don’t want anything serious from a man, then, by all means, sleep with a guy right away. As long as you are comfortable with a casual relationship, sleeping with a guy too soon will not ruin a situation-ship.
How Men Act When You Sleep with Them Too Soon?
When you’ve slept with a man too soon, it’s pretty easy to tell if you pay attention to his actions.
Below are the 4 actions men take when they’ve slept with him too soon.
- He only spends time with you if sex is involved.
You have slept with a guy too soon if he only wants to see you if sex is involved.
He acts this way because you all haven’t taken the time to get to know each other. So he sees you as a booty call.
- He no longer tries to win you over.
A man will not continue to put forth effort if he doesn’t have to work hard or invest in you before it gets physical.
When a guy isn’t required to invest in you before getting intimate. He’s not going to give maximum effort.
Why? When he has already gotten your goods.
- He backs off you
He thinks you sleep with every guy on the first night. So he doesn’t think he’s unique to you.
Every man wants a woman no other guy can quickly get. That makes men feel special.
- He is doing the slow fade.
To the guy, your behavior changed. You become clingy after sleeping together, so he pulls away.
What Men Think of Women That Sleep With Them on the First Date
Here’s what crosses every guy’s mind when he’s on the first date with you. Every guy hopes the first date ends with sex. We just don’t expect it will happen.
So, what do men think of women that sleep with them on the first date? Honestly, most men would enjoy that you all ended up in the sack after one date. And many of these guys would go out with you again, hoping the second, third, or fourth date ends with sex.
But if you ask a guy how serious he would take a woman that slept with him after one date, you will be surprised.
Most men wouldn’t take a woman seriously if she slept with them too soon. Again many men would think they aren’t the only guy you’ve slept with after the first date.
Before you say this is a double standard, guys shouldn’t judge women because it takes two people to engage in sex. I would add that we all judge each other, right or wrong.
When you don’t know a person or know very little about someone, we all make split-second judgments or assumptions about someone until we get to know that person. It’s human nature to be judgmental. That is how we determine who means us harm.
To be honest, guys want a woman that makes them wait for sex. All guys want a challenge. When a girl can get a man to take the time to invest in her by getting to know her, to guys, that woman is worth taking home to his mother.
How to Keep a Guy Interested if You Slept with Him on the First Date
So, you meet a guy you like and go on a date. The chemistry is so strong that you end up sleeping with him. How do you keep him interested?
To be honest, since you have given him sex so quickly, you are at a disadvantage. As I stated earlier, most men will think you’re a bit of a player, or you often sleep with men on the first date.
So, if you want to keep a guy interested after having sex with him, you must change his assumption of you. Now to alter his preconception of you, you must see him again.
Here’s where you have an advantage, most guys don’t want to just hit it and quit it. Most men will want to continue sleeping with you for as long as you allow it.
So, it’s highly likely he will want to see you again by reaching out to you to see you again.
The guy must call you, not the other way around. If you call him first, the guy will think that you want him, and your call is the first sign of you being clingy.
Let him contact you first. When he calls, do not bring up the sex. Talk to him as you would talk to your best friend. This approach will throw the guy off because men think women get more attached to a guy they sleep with.
Next, when he asks to see you again, tell him you would if he plans the date. By having the man arrange the date, you are becoming a challenge and getting the guy to invest in you.
After the second date, no sex. You mustn’t sleep with this guy again until you have gotten to know him and vice versa. If you sleep with him again, you will be just another booty call he can hang out with in his time of need.
If the second date goes well, it’s okay to show your appreciation with a hug or kiss. Just don’t let it lead to the bedroom.
When you withhold sex until he’s invested in you, a relationship will form because you were able to change his assumptions of you.
Takeaway
Dating and learning someone new is exciting and challenging. Sometimes the attraction and chemistry can make you sleep with a guy you barely know. And sometimes, moving too quickly to intimacy can ruin a potential relationship before it even starts.
If you want a relationship with a man, it’s better to wait and determine if this person is the right man for you. Rather than haphazardly jumping in bed with a guy you don’t know.
Yet, if you don’t want a serious relationship or would like a casual one, then having sex after the first date will not ruin your relationship. Just have sex safely.
If you liked this article, check out my post, What Sex Means to Men, and learn, from a guy’s perspective, what sex means. Sex doesn’t mean what most women think sex means to guys, a means to an end.
