Men are generally known to be complicated because of their ability to give mixed signals to women.
It can be challenging to know about a guy’s intentions about you when their actions don’t match their words, or they’re acting very confusing towards you.
However, the minute you decipher their intentions, it can be pretty easy to tell what they do feel about you.
This is the instance where you need to pay close attention to their body language, more than anything.
The following is everything you need to know about how to confront a guy’s intentions.
Is it okay to ask a man what his intentions are?
Yes, it is fine to ask a man what his intention are for you. When you’re dating someone, you deserve to know what he wants out of the relationship and if he’s going to be serious about pursuing you. Otherwise, if he doesn’t have any serious intentions about you, then you’re both just wasting your time.
You need to know what his intentions are so you don’t waste both of your time trying to see a potential that clearly isn’t there.
It also helps you avoid unnecessary heartbreak and pain by being blindly optimistic about his intentions.
For example, suppose a man has any intentions of pursuing an actual relationship with you or even just dating you to get to know you better.
In that case, you need to know as early as you can. While words mean differently with actions, saying his intentions is the first step in getting the assurance you need that it isn’t one-sided.
How to have the conversation?
Confront them
One of the primary ways to get both of you to have the conversation is to confront them.
Confrontation doesn’t necessarily mean being intense about it because otherwise, you’ll scare guys off and push them away entirely.
Instead, be direct and precise about what you want. Confrontation is never easy, especially as men are more withdrawn to conflict than women are.
However, there’s nothing wrong with telling him what you want out of the relationship.
If you’re looking for a more serious relationship than a casual one, don’t hesitate to tell him so. Be confident in telling him your expectation in a relationship, but not in a manner that seems demanding and unrealistic.
Choose the right timing
Having a conversation with someone you like is all about timing. Of course, your man will feel off when you do it too soon, such as after having gone out with only one or two dates with him.
But, on the other hand, you need to choose the proper timing in conversing with him, such as getting to know each other a little better.
Have patience and go on a few dates with him before nudging the conversation on your relationship.
And if he plans to pursue anything serious with you. Everything is a manner of place and time, so this is a crucial factor if you want the relationship to work.
Don’t let fear and anxiety consume you
Being confident and secure in your worth is a desirable trait for a man, so you shouldn’t let your insecurities and worries get the best of you.
Instead, realize that if asking his intentions scared him off that easily, he’s not someone you should have a relationship with.
You need someone who can handle difficult conversations like this.
If your man can’t do that, then all the more, he can’t take much more difficult and serious conversation with you in the long run.
So even when it’s tempting to let fear get the best of you, let your confidence shine instead.
Do it face-to-face
Just like you wouldn’t want to have a breakup given to you through social media or text, the same goes for the conversation on his intentions.
You need to have the bravery to handle face-to-face discussions and don’t start the conversation with ‘we need to talk.’
Having a personal conversation makes it more authentic, especially if it turns out that his intentions for you are serious and genuine.
You won’t see his body language and facial expressions over a text message, and it’s what makes face-to-face conversations incomparable.
Keep it light
Another factor that men appreciate is a woman’s ability to keep the conversation light, no matter how serious the conversation is.
You don’t need to make the air heavier than it already is, so feel free to add light humor whenever you please.
Relationships and dating don’t have to be so severe all the time, and by keeping it light, you’re making the conversation much easier to handle.
It also reduces the amount of tension and nervousness in the air on both ends.
It’s not exactly easy to say your intentions for someone you’re dating, whether or not you plan on pursuing a serious relationship with them. So keeping the conversation light is a favor for both of you.
We’ve gone over everything you need to know to confront a guy’s intentions.
Of course, it’s not always the easiest thing to do. Still, it’s a necessary part of dating someone, especially if you both want different things.
As you get to know them better, you’re going to want to see if they’re serious about their intentions for you or not.
So you need to pay very close attention to what your guy says and his actions and body language towards you when he says his intentions.
If your man has made his intentions clear and he wants to be with you. It’s time to make the relationship official, I put a post together to help you out. Click the link and learn when to make your relationship official.
