Trying to find a love interest in our modern dating era is challenging.
Men ghost women and women ghost men, or worst, you go on a first date with a guy, that seems to go well, but then he does the slow fade.
Perhaps the most challenging thing about dating is going out on several dates with guys only for you to realize you only see them as platonic friends.
Going on dates with guys and realizing you see them as friends isn’t necessarily a problem if this only happens occasionally.
The problem arises when all your dates end in the friend zone.
If this is happening to you, where you make all your dates platonic friends, you have to ask yourself, “what am I doing wrong?” Why am I friend-zoning all my dates? And how do I stop?
In this post, I will show you how to stop making dates end as platonic friends.
I’ll show you how to connect with men by giving off romantic vibes instead of friend vibes on dates.
And you’ll learn how to show a guy you’re interested, on a first date, by flirting (smiling & touching) and communicating (sharing stories about yourself).
Why Am I Friend-zoning All My Dates?
You could be friend-zoning dates for various reasons, but here are a few of the most common reasons why women friend-zone their dates.
Stopped being attractive. You used to dress nice in a sexy outfit for a date, now all your dates have become casual outings with a friend you come dressed in t-shirts and jeans.
You date men that aren’t on your level. (Not a match) You have started going on dates with men who just aren’t on your level mentally and physically.
You‘re passive. Suppose you see someone you like and approach the guy as a friend because it’s less risky. Fear of rejection keeps you from approaching a guy that could be right for you.
Men aren’t allowed to invest in a relationship with you. You make it so convenient for a guy to be with you that you do all the work.
He isn’t allowed to invest in you. Whenever you make it so easy for a guy to be with you, he will not value you.
Because he doesn’t value you, you make him a platonic friend until he respects you.
Side Note: If you are constantly friend-zoning men learn why this is happening in my post: “Why Do I Always Friend Zone Guys.“
How to Stop Giving Off Friend Vibes?
Believe it or not, the difference between a romantic date and a date that turns platonic is the vibes and signals you send a man.
Whenever a guy is on a date with a woman, we consciously read her vibes. If you’re giving off friend vibes, guys will think you aren’t interested in them romantically.
As a result, your date will give off friend vibes. And you’ll walk away thinking you’re better off being friends with him.
If you want guys to see you as a woman they want to date, here’s how to stop sending friend signals.
When you’re on a date, flirt and show interest in him. Don’t act like one of his homeboys.
Instead of talking to him about sports and dressing down for your date, show up for him in an outfit that shows off your curves.
If you show up to your date looking nice and making eye contact with him, this sends a clear signal that you aren’t looking for friendship.
Also, if you dress up in a sexy outfit for a date, you will feel sexier. Your energy and vibe will go from friend vibes to sexy romantic passion.
Your date will view you as someone he wants to be with romantically rather than someone he sees platonically.
How to give off romantic vibes and show him you’re interested? (No more Platonic Dates)
Whenever a man is on a date with a woman, the first thing he’s thinking about is whether or not you’re interested in him.
Guys are constantly looking for a sign that a woman is interested in them.
If you aren’t signaling your interest to a guy, he will think you don’t like him, or you only want to be friends with him.
Since you aren’t looking for a platonic date, what you want to do, as the woman, is show your date that you’re interested in him.
One of the best ways to show a guy you’re interested is by smiling and maintaining eye contact with him.
By eye contact, I’m not talking about looking at the guy for a brief second. I’m talking about maintaining eye contact with him for 2 to 3 seconds at a time.
When you maintain eye contact, this sends a guy the signal that you’re interested in him.
Another way to show a guy you’re interested is by breaking the touch barrier.
Touch is a very intimate thing. Whenever a man is touched by a woman, we feel a slight connection to that person.
A touch sends a man a strong signal that you’re interested. Two perfect places to touch a guy are his forearm or on his shoulder.
Quick story, I met my wife online, and the first time we went out on a date, all I could think about was whether or not she was interested in me.
I was constantly looking for a sign from her that she found me interesting and attractive.
As our date progressed, we decided to go to this bar. At the bar, we talked all night.
I remember her telling me how she liked the shirt I was wearing, then she placed her hands on my shoulders.
At that moment, I knew she was interested in me. Touch is a great way to show interest.
How can you communicate romantic interest to Stop Dates ending as Platonic Friends? ( It’s all about your communication and enthusiasm)
As I have said in this article, guys on dates are consciously and subconsciously looking for cues that you are interested in.
A great way to show interest when you’re on a date with a guy is through communication.
By communication, I’m not talking about having boring conversations. I mean showing enthusiasm through your communication and flirting.
Men feel disconnected with dates when conversations lag and are boring.
If you end the date and the guy thinks you’re a nice person, but he only sees you as a spiritual friend, or worse, he does the slow fade, it’s probably because your communication was boring or just off.
As a result, he couldn’t connect with you.
Instead, suppose you share a short story about yourself; most people connect with stories, and men are no different.
Do you have a fascinating hobby?
Share with your date the story of how you got became involved in that hobby. You will build an instant rapport, and your date will feel connected with you.
Guys would prefer women to share stories about themselves rather than ask a lot of questions.
When my wife and I first started dating, she told me that her favorite watch was Omega. I didn’t understand why until she told me the story behind her love for the watch brand.
When her grandfather was her country’s Ambassador to China, he gifted her an Omega watch.
My wife was attending a private school at the time, the school was where wealthy West Africans sent their children, and when she wore the watch to school, all her classmates loved it.
To my wife, the Omega brand is nostalgic from her school days and upbringing.
I learned so much about my wife from her story. I learned about her love for Omega watches and that her family was prominent in politics.
Because of this story, I felt a connection with her. I knew something about her most people wouldn’t have known.
Here are a few tips you can use to help you communicate and build attraction with a man on a date.
Make statements about yourself – instead of asking many questions. Share something interesting about yourself that you stand for.
Tell short stories about yourself- people bond and connect over shared stories. Have two or three interesting short stories you can share with a guy on a date.
Be enthusiastic, don’t just sit there – engage, listen, & interact.
The Takeaway
Again dating is difficult, especially if all your dates end with the guy being in the friend zone.
You can change that if you remember not to get off friend vibes by dressing in a lovely sexy black mini, no t-shirt, and jeans.
Show a guy you’re interested in him by smiling and breaking the touch barrier.
And build a connection with him by sharing stories about yourself.
If you’re willing to try these tips, more of your dates will become boyfriends instead of being friends.
