Life can be difficult when you find yourself catching feelings for a guy. And unsure what to do to move things forward with that person. How can you get a man to want you?
You don’t want to “bother” them. But at the same time, you don’t want to spend the rest of your life wondering what “could have been.”
If you have your eyes on a guy, try to understand the following points about how to make that man want you.
It can be done.
Get a Man to Want You by Being Independent
Guys are generally attracted to girls that have their own sense of who they are. Women that have their own hobbies, interests, and ambitions come off as interesting. They show that they can manage themselves.
In other words, it’s an attractive quality men desire – it’s the opposite of being needy.
When men notice a woman is independent and enjoying her life, we want to know how she spends her time, what are the things she’s passionate about, and how we can become a part of her life.
Put simply, men are going to want you to be a positive addition to their life and not another chore.
So if you can show that you are adding value to their life, rather than giving them more responsibilities to worry about, you’ll have a foot up.
Get a Guy to Desire You by Looking Your Best
Men are visual. The first thing we notice about a woman is her looks, her style, the way she carries herself, and the physical attributes that determine our attractiveness to her.
Men are drawn to a woman’s appearance because to a man the more beautiful or desirable a woman is – and he is able to be in a relationship with her – the more desirable and attractive men think of themselves.
In other words, dating an attractive woman is a boost to a man’s self-esteem and ego. We love going out with a beautiful woman on our arm and seeing other men turn their heads to look at our woman with desire.
If you want a man to want you, always look your best.
Avoid Trying to Change Him
A fairly common mistake that women will make is trying to change a man in some way. Guys hate when women attempt to change them.
Women usually try to change men in small subtle ways. If her guy doesn’t talk about his emotions – she may attempt to get her man to open up by requesting that they have more heart-to-heart conversations.
What women view as a simple request to connect with their men, men view these attempts as annoyances that push them away. Instead of trying to change a man, appreciate the man he is.
If you know your guy doesn’t talk about his emotions but he listens tentatively to you as you talk about your feelings. Let him know you appreciate how he listens to you as you share your feelings with him. Tell him how connected to him you feel.
You’re not going to change your man with these actions but it will make him want you more.
Make Him Feel Essential
Guys want to feel like they are an essential part of your life. We want to feel that we are needed.
Men want to take care of you and have that feeling of being your hero. Give them the opportunity to do that.
For instance, you’re on your way to work and as you are getting in the car you notice your tire is flat. Instead of calling AAA, reach out to your man. There is no better feeling to a man than being his woman’s hero – especially in a crisis.
By asking men for their help with something you trigger their superhero senses. This makes a man feel essential in your life and he will want you for it.
Try to Stand Out, Rather Than Blending In
A common mistake women make is trying to blend in with women that seem to be doing well with men, rather than being their own person.
Like with anything, if you want to get noticed by a guy you need to stand out, but how you stand out plays a pivotal role.
One way to stand out and get noticed by a guy is to be approachable. The way you become approachable is by smiling.
The next time you see a man you want to approach, lock eyes, and give him a smile. He is more likely to come over and say hello.
Often times you will stand out if you are independent (as mentioned above) and can show that you are more responsible or more ambitious than other women. Don’t fall to societal norms in order to try and impress a man.
If you can stand out and be approachable, more men will want and desire you.
Compliment Him
Lastly, be sure to compliment the man you like. Guys don’t get compliments often, and this is one of the most foolproof ways to catch a guy’s attention.
Guys will be more attracted to women that show an interest in them first.
Just make sure that your compliment makes sense, and is tailored to a man.
Men don’t necessarily like compliments about their hair or their eyes (unless they are already into you) but they do like it if you compliment their achievements or their abilities.
