Here’s the truth about men. Some men are confusing. Some men are difficult. And some men date casually.
But the majority of men want commitment. We want to be in a committed relationship just as much as women.
We just want to be with the right woman and we aren’t willing to compromise on that.
Getting a man to commit isn’t hard.
In fact, any woman can increase her chances of getting a committed relationship with any man if she can show her best self.
In this article, you will learn how to get a man to commit to you by being fun. You will also learn how to bring the best out of a man, get him to invest in you, and make a man fear losing you.
1. Be fun and create pleasant experiences. You will get a commitment from men if you are fun.
How can women create pleasant experiences with men?
To be fun to men, you must be present in the moment. You should focus on having a good time and engaging with a man.
If this is the first date, have light talks focused on getting to know each other. Chats should be organic and flow naturally – similar to talking with your best friend. Just be pleasant. If you want to know why a guy is single, ask the question in a light and funny way.
Rather than asking a guy, why are you single? Instead, ask the question in a playful joking way like – you are a handsome guy with a good job and you seem to have your life on track, why haven’t you been taken off the market? Is there something wrong with you? With a playful grin on your face.
When you ask men questions in a playful way, you are perceived as fun and exciting. Men have more engaging conversations with fun women and are more likely to think you are different from women he has dated in the past.
Don’t make it about you.
Don’t steer conversations toward your goals – especially if you’re looking to get married or have a serious relationship soon. If this is the first date, he is just trying to see if you are fun and worth a second date.
Women that have put off dating to focus on their career or complete their education – will often jump into the dating pool later in life.
When this happens a woman will often approach dating with the purpose of getting married and having children as soon as she can – because to her – there isn’t much time left on her biological clock.
This approach to dating is a mistake.
When a woman approaches dating this way, men see it. Often first dates turn into interviews, conversations become dull and plain, and attempts to engage a man are like pulling teeth.
When you date from the perspective of a ticking clock – you are no longer present in the moment you have with a guy – you suck the fun and excitement out of a date. You seem desperate.
Never approach dating from the position of desperation, because a desperate woman will accept a man that doesn’t see her worth.
2. Inspire a guy to be better. Men commit to women that inspire them to be better, inspire the best.
How to inspire a man to be better?
Women can inspire a man to be better by getting him to talk about his passions and dreams without judgment. You may be thinking to yourself, easier said than done. And that’s true! Men aren’t quick to open up.
But a man will open up to a woman he is interested in.
All you have to do is ask the guy you’re dating – what are your dreams and aspirations for the future? You want to ask this question in an intimate setting. And just listen to his response.
Ask follow-up questions that cause your guy to explain in more detail why he has that dream or passion.
And if you see in him the qualities necessary to make his dreams a reality, let him know. Look him in the eye and tell him you believe in him. Your compliment will make him feel like a winner and inspire him to be better.
Your man will connect with you emotionally because you would’ve been one of the few people he could be vulnerable with by sharing his dreams with you. He will place you on a pedestal.
This is a good thing because you want him to see you as valuable.
3. Let a guy invest in you. Men commit to women that allow them to invest in their relationship.
How can women allow men to invest in them?
Men invest in women by offering gifts – time, advice, help, and protection. Women allow men to invest in them by accepting these gifts.
Men commit to women by the amount of time, energy, and emotion we had to put in to get with them. The more a guy invests in you the more he will value you.
Many women mistakenly refuse a man’s gifts. This causes a man to think that you don’t need a man or he will feel that there isn’t room for him to invest in a relationship with you – causing him to pull away.
Don’t make the mistake of being a girlfriend to a man that isn’t being a boyfriend to you. When you do there is no incentive for a guy to invest in you. Why would he? He is getting all his needs met without having to invest in you.
It is for this reason, it’s not a good idea for a woman to invest in a man until after he has invested in her.
If you want a man to commit to you, allow him to invest in you, and pursue you.
You’re the prize.
4. Let a guy fear losing you. Men commit to women they could lose.
How can women create fear of loss in men?
Women can create a fear of loss in men by keeping their options open. That means not making a guy a priority until he has made you a priority.
Every man wants to be with a woman that’s a prize. When your life is more of a priority than a guy, to men you become a challenge.
From a man’s perspective, women who are challenging are more desirable, attractive, and appealing. But can also be lost to someone else, if we aren’t on our game.
Unfortunately, many women don’t allow men the opportunity to bring their A-game. Most women will see the slightest opportunity for a relationship with a man and shut down all other options. Even if the man they are committing to hasn’t committed to them.
A woman will tell the man – she really likes – that she is only seeing him. This is a mistake. Once a man knows you are only seeing him, there is no reason for him to continue planning dates, taking you out, or providing gifts.
To men, once you have been won over the chase is over. We no longer fear losing you because you told us we are the only one you’re with.
Instead of telling a man, you’re only seeing him. Keep a man on his toes and don’t tell him. By keeping your dating status from him, a guy fears losing you to another man. This will motivate him to keep bringing his A-game – taking you out and putting forth effort.
When you see a man commit to a woman – that’s giving a girlfriend a title, moving in together, or marriage – he knows if he doesn’t commit he could lose her.
Conclusion
Getting commitment from men isn’t hard if you can be fun, bring the best out of men, allow them to invest in you, and let men fear losing you.
All men want a committed relationship with a wonderful woman. However, many women don’t show how wonderful they are to the men they’re dating. Because of this, women assume men fear commitment.
By following the tips in this article you can increase your odds of getting a commitment from men.
If you enjoyed this post, check out my article Why Men Won’t Commit & What Can Be Done and learn why men don’t commit. Also, learn how to increase a man’s commitment to you.
