How to Play Hard-to-get With a Guy You’ve had Sex with (Mini Guide)

When it comes to dating and finding a mate, women are often told to be Hard-to-get and let men chase them.

This is excellent advice because men value women that are a challenge. 

Plus, being Hard-to-get is a great way to filter out the guys that don’t want a long-term relationship. 

However, what if you sleep with a guy too soon? How do you play hard-to-get with a guy you’ve had Sex with?

This post will take you through the steps you need to follow to be hard-to-get the right way, even if you had a one-night stand.

Men understand that Sex to women is a big deal and a highly emotional matter.

Guys know that once they have sex with a woman, most of the time, women change. 

Many women become needy and clingy, two adjectives that turn men off.

Instead, after sleeping with a guy, remain calm and keep your composure. DON’T change how you interact with him.

Talk to him as you usually would, with no clingy or needy behaviors. Be completely cool. This response will be completely unexpected.

The guy would be unsure if you enjoyed the Sex. And he’ll wonder if you’re even into him.

This is what you want. A man that’s not sure you’re into him will continue to pursue you. He’ll see you as a challenge. 

Women often overthink and regret sleeping with a guy. DON’T. 

You can’t play hard-to-get if you’re overthinking sleeping with a man.

If you want to get intimate with a guy, you can. A guy isn’t going to think you’re uncomplicated because you slept with him.

Men will think you’re easy if you don’t require anything from them. I’m not talking about being a gold digger.

For instance,  you sleep with men just cause. You don’t require a relationship, dates, or any of his time.

If steps 1 and 2 are hard to follow, back off the guy for a while and focus on yourself.

Reconnect with friends or family, join a gym or focus on a hobby. The objective is to focus on you and prioritize your life.

If you have followed Step 3, then this will be easy.

Since you haven’t chased this guy, he will wonder if you’re still interested in him. 

So it’s likely he will call you. Talk to him as you usually would, even though you’re happy to hear from him. 

Don’t let him know how excited you are he called. If he knows you still want him, he will continue to string you along.

So be casual on the phone, tell him how busy you have been since you last saw him. You want to show him that you have a life outside of him.

He’ll want to pursue you once he sees he isn’t a priority with you after Sex.

Okay, so you’ve slept with a guy, and now you want to be Hard-to-get. 

If you have followed all the steps up to this point, the guy will want to see you. So he’ll either call or text you to hang out.

This is great! This shows he’s willing to pursue you again. 

But here is where a lot of women fall short. Many women make the mistake of sleeping with the guy again the next time they see him.

If you have sex with him when you’re together, the guy will think you’ll have sex with him every time.

He’ll also think you’re easy because he didn’t have to work to be with you. 

However, if you withhold Sex when you spend time with him. The guy will see you as a challenge. 

He will think to himself, “We had sex the first time we were together; why no sex this time?”

By withholding sex after you have been intimate, it signals to a man that he has to work harder to be with you again.

He will see you as hard-to-get. You will be his challenge, and he’ll pursue you.

Being Hard-to-get is an effective dating strategy for women to build desire in a guy.

But many women struggle to implement this approach once they have slept with a man.

In this post, I have outlined 5 steps you can use to be Hard-to-get with a guy you’ve slept with.

If you can remain calm, don’t overthink the situation, focus on yourself, make him contact you first, and don’t have sex with him the next time you’re together, you can be hard to get. 

Now all you have to do is take action.

If you enjoyed this post, you would also like my post, “The 6 Ways to Deal With a Guy That Plays Hard-to-get With You.”

In this post, you will learn the 6 ways men will play hard-to-get with you, and you’ll learn how to handle his tricks and turn the table on him.