The absolute worst thing you can do when it comes to dating is be seen as easy.
No one wants a mate that’s easy to get because a person that’s easy to attract isn’t seen as valuable.
We all want a mate that’s a little out of our league and a challenge to get.
When it comes to dating, you usually assume only women are the ones who play hard to get, and men are the ones up for the challenge and willing to pursue.
However, women aren’t the only ones playing hard-to-get.
In this post, I will answer the questions: Do Men Play Hard-to-get?, Why Men Play Hard-to-get? and show you the 5 ways a Guy will Play Hard-to-get with you.
Do Men Play Hard to Get?
Yes, men absolutely do play hard to get. Like women, men play hard to get because the tactic works to build desire in a woman and get her to invest in him.
We all want what we can’t have. As humans, we value people and things that require us to put in the work to achieve.
Suppose your parents gifted you a brand new car, the car of your dreams. Sure, you would appreciate the care your parents had given you.
But it wouldn’t mean as much as if you had sacrificed your summers working and saving your money to buy the same car.
The car you worked for is more valuable to you because you know what you sacrificed to get it, your summers, and the money you earned.
This explains why men and women should play hard to get.
When it comes to dating men, and women for that matter, don’t want to be seen as easy to get. Because a person that’s easy to get is unattractive.
Like in our car example, your parents gifted you a new car, and you work for another car. The car that your parents gifted you was easy to get on your part because it didn’t require any sacrifice from you.
So because the car was a gift, it was appreciated. Still, you could easily take it for granted because you didn’t sacrifice anything for it.
That’s why you won’t care for the car as you should. The same thing happens in dating when you are easy to get.
Why Men Play Difficult to Reach?
Men play hard to get to for 2 main reasons:
1. To make themselves look more desirable to women.
And
2. To test a woman’s interest in them.
Why?
Let’s start with the first reason why men play hard to get. To make themselves look desirable to women.
Playing hard to get and being selective gives women the impression that a guy has more relationship options. In other words, to women, a guy that’s picky and selective is viewed as valuable.
This is because men are often seen as the pursuers of women. It seems unnatural for a woman to chase a man.
Yet, when it’s a selective man who plays hard to get, you would assume this is because he’s a valuable mate or a great catch.
And your desire for him will increase. Particularly if he chooses you to be with. We all want mates that are hard to get.
When our mates are a challenge or selective but choose us, it makes us seem more valuable, at least to our ego.
Who wouldn’t want someone no one else can have?
Now let’s tackle the second reason why men play hard to get. To test a woman’s interest in him.
In dating, a huge challenge for a man is approaching a woman. Imagine having to get the nerve to talk to a beautiful woman when you’re unsure if she will like you.
The fear of being rejected is accurate. Not only is it a shot to a guy’s ego but also a shot to his self-image.
So to prevent being rejected, a man will play hard-to-get as a way to see if he can build desire in her for him.
If a guy can succeed and build your desire for him, playing hard to get also raises his self-esteem or self-image.
We all kind of judge our desirability and self-image based on how desirable our mates are. It feels extraordinary to a guy’s self-esteem when he has a beautiful woman on his arm.
That’s why a person that’s an 8 or 9 will only date another person that’s an 8 or 9. We want someone equal to our desirability and self-image.
How Do Guys Play Hard to Get? (The 5 Ways Men Play Difficult-to-get)
Men will play hard to get in a variety of ways. Here are the 5 frequent techniques men will use to play hard to get.
1. Flirting with you then stops. Men that play hard to reach will use this strategy when he initially meets you.
What’s going on here is the guy will build rapport and interest with an engaging conversation.
During the interaction, he will compliment and flirt with you. Once you all have exchanged numbers and reached out to talk, he will change.
He’ll behave like a guy running hot and cold, hoping you will invest in getting to know him. In other words, he hopes you chase him.
2. Acting busy – A guy playing hard to get will act busy after an engaging interaction together, like a fun date. Or after an excellent phone conversation that leaves you wanting more.
By seeming to be busy, the guy hopes this will signal to you that he’s a great catch.
He is trying to convince you that his busyness means he has other priorities besides dating.
3. Takes him a long-time to respond to your calls or texts or is hard to get a hold of.
With this technique, the man’s objective is to plant the seed in your mind that he is busy.
And the fact that he can’t get back to you right away will signal that he is an in-demand mate.
Men that use this approach are trying to get you to chase them.
4. He approaches your friends – Another tactic a guy playing difficult to get will do is talk to your friends.
Now the guy will like you, and while talking to your friends, he will ask about you.
In this situation, the guy is trying to prove to your friends that he is a good catch and would be suitable for you.
He is hoping your friends will like him so, in turn, you will like him. He is using peer pressure to his advantage.
5. He teases you. This is a tactic learned from pick-up artists. The idea is to be critical of the woman the guy is attracted to.
The reasoning is, beautiful women aren’t used to being criticized and will assume the guy doing the teasing is an alpha male. And she will be attracted to him as a result.
Takeaway
In dating, no one wants a mate that’s easy to get. We all want someone that’s a bit of a challenge.
So, men play hard to get to increase their value and land a better partner.
In this post, we answered the question do Men Play Hard-to-get? You learned why men play hard to get, and you also learned the 5 ways a man will play hard-to-get with you.
Now, check out my post How Playing Hard-to-get can Work Effortlessly on Any Guy, and learn how you can play Hard-to-get to attract the man of your dreams.
