What are some red flags in men – women should avoid? We all know the dating scene can be rough; what can you look for to spot a creep vs a man of worth? Thankfully, here are some definitive things a woman should be aware of before she agrees to date a man.
1. Red Flags Women Should Avoid – He showers you with compliments and gifts.
While some ladies might say this is hitting the jackpot, slow down for a minute, and assess the situation. How long has he known you? While compliments and gifts are not a deal-breaker by any means. They can become a crutch for a lazy man’s pursuit.
Where is the substance, the deep conversations, the sharing of his heart? If these are not present, perhaps he is love-bombing you.
Why this is a red flag? If a guy is willing to shower you with gifts and compliments after one or two dates, he could be trying to buy your love and hiding who he really is.
Insecure men often try to impress women that are out of their league, by being someone they’re not. They will often think if they spoil you with gifts and displays of affection it will lure you to them.
But, their actions never last. Shortly, after you agree to a relationship his true insecure self will show up and turn on you.
Love-bombing is a tactic manipulative people use as a form of abuse – where the abuser showers you with gifts if you act according to your abuser. If you are dating a guy that is love-bombing, this is a red flag you should not avoid.
2. He wants intimacy/relationship too quickly.
Some men only want one thing, and they’ll try hard to get it. They’ll prey on a woman’s loneliness and attempt to seduce her into their bed or emotionally get into her head as soon as possible.
There are plenty of men that will try to sleep with you on the first date or claim that you’re in a relationship with them after two dates.
But, what’s the rush? Why is moving too quickly a red flag?
Psychologists believe it takes about 2 months for people in love to form a couple. And 60 days, is approximately enough time for us to form an opinion about someone we’ve spend time with.
If a guy isn’t willing to allow at least 60 days to get to know you, it means he isn’t truly interested in you at all.
True physical intimacy can only be had if there is emotional intimacy as well. If there isn’t much connection outside the physical, then he only wants sex or a casual relationship.
3. He’s selfish.
A guy can manifest selfishness in many ways, from invalidating your concerns to only looking out for his own needs. If you want to know if your man is selfish, ask yourself these questions.
Does he take care of you and sacrifice his time for you, or does he only think about himself? If he gets angry when you ask him to do something for you, that is a huge concern.
Why this is a red flag in men that women should avoid?
There are 2 characteristics of selfishness: Being concerned exclusively with oneself and having no regard for the needs and feelings of others.
If your mate won’t do anything for you without getting upset, he will not be a good partner going forward because he has no regard for your needs and feelings. If he does not empathize with you or sacrifice for you he cannot be the man you need.
A relationship with a selfish man means he will take all your love and affection without returning love back to you.
Unfortunately, it’s hard to notice the traits of a selfish person – they hide aspects of who they are well. If he only talks about or cares about himself, get as far away from him as you can.
4. He jumps from woman to woman.
If a man has jumped from one relationship to another but blames his women’s issues on them, that is another red flag.
Why women should avoid this red flag in men? Because there is one common denominator here, and that is him. He isn’t learning from his past relationships. Therefore, he will repeat behaviors that will cause his relationship with you to end.
I believe a man should learn something about himself from every past relationship – what aspects of the relationship did he enjoy, what caused the relationship to fail, and what did he do to contribute to the relationship ending?
By taking time to reflect on a failed relationship before moving on, a guy can learn about himself and fix any issues he has.
It doesn’t matter how hot he is or how much attention he gives you, if he’s playing the neighborhood, it’s time to let him go.
This is usually the same man that showers compliments and gifts. If he has a woman in every port, he has no time for a deep and meaningful pursuit and will never look upon you as the one for whom his heartbeats.
Avoid this man.
5. Red Flags Women Should Avoid – He’s not kind to children or animals.
You can tell a lot about a man’s heart by the way he treats children or animals. If he perceives them as an annoyance or the child or animal in question doesn’t like them, pay attention.
Why this red flag should be avoided?
This is particularly important if you’re a single mother. Child abuse is 40 times more likely when single parents find new partners. I’ve never been a fan of introducing a new guy to kids when you’re getting to know a potential love interest.
Caution should be taken and only introduce children when you are sure the guy wants to take the relationship to another level.
Pet lovers – if he’s allergic to your cat or dog that’s one thing, but a man who mistreats your furry friend should never have the keys to your heart.
The Final Take Away
Trust your gut. It’s not hard to spot a man who is selfish, unempathetic, and only wants one thing. Do not be swayed by a pretty face. Demand more from yourself and wait for the man who will adore you in truth.
