Many women believe the best dating approach is hard to get.
An honest belief is that if you play it cool, you don’t reveal to a guy how much you like him.
Because women know that if they show their eagerness to a man, he will manipulate them.
Now, I get this, most women don’t want to show all their cards and risk being taken advantage of by a guy.
The problem is most women aren’t using this effective dating tactic correctly. And many more women don’t understand the objective of playing hard to get.
In this post, I will explain the 3 reasons why women play hard-to-get all wrong.
Hopefully, if you understand what you’re doing wrong, you can adequately use this tactic effectively going forward.
This post will help you adjust your strategy and build a long-term relationship with a committed guy.
1. Women Aren’t Sure When to Properly be Hard-to-get
So one of the first issues women have is that they don’t completely understand how to be hard to get.
Many women think being hard to get means being difficult to men or making themselves completely unavailable.
Even more, women will give a man the cold shoulder even if she’s interested in him.
Being aloof and complicated isn’t a good idea when a guy hasn’t had the chance to get to know you.
In fact, studies show that playing hard-to-get only works on men once a guy has gotten to know you, likes you, and invested in you.
Here’s how you get a guy to like you.
If you want a guy to like you, you need to be agreeable, pleasant and show the guy you’re interested in him when you first meet him.
It’s best to engage in conversations and actively look for common interests. In other words, you want to make an excellent impression on the guy.
After meeting and talking with you, the guy should be thinking, “Wow, this woman is wonderful. I want to get to know her better.”
At this point, the guy will most likely ask for your number and ask you out.
At this moment, you can play a little hard to get.
For example, he asks for your number; challenge him first instead of giving him your number.
Tell him you will give him your number if he tells you your favorite hobby.
Quiz him a little on your conversation in a playful and fun way. It shouldn’t be more than 1 or 2 questions that challenge him a little before giving your number.
He’ll likely pass your quiz, and you’ll exchange numbers.
Whether you know it or not, this is the proper way to play hard to get. A woman initially gets a man interested in her, and then she challenges him to invest in her.
Properly playing hard-to-get builds desire in a guy for you.
2. Women Attract Men That Aren’t Looking for a Relationship
The second thing women do wrong when playing hard-to-get is they play it too cool.
There’s a risk to playing hard-to-get that is vital you understand. When you play it too cool, you risk attracting a guy who isn’t looking for commitment.
You become a target for aloof and non-committal men because you will seem to have a lot of guys pursuing you.
When men think you are in demand or casual with dates, it will seem to guys that you don’t want anything serious and don’t really care about being in a relationship.
To a non-committal man, you become the perfect partner.
However, if you don’t want to attract this type of partner, one of the things you can do is tell a guy what you want.
If you’re the type of woman that wants a committed relationship, let a guy know. Playing hard-to-get isn’t about hiding your relationship goals.
This dating strategy is about getting a committed long-term relationship by building desire in a guy for you.
3. Women Don’t Understand the Objective of Playing Hard-to-get
The last reason women play hard-to-get all wrong is that they just don’t understand what this strategy is all about.
Many women think that to play hard-to-get, a woman must challenge a man for every minute of her time.
Women falsely believe that if a man isn’t working hard to get her, he will not respect or value her.
Now it’s true that a woman shouldn’t be too easy to get. By easy, I mean that every guy that asked for your number shouldn’t have it.
But you shouldn’t be as cold as ice to a guy you genuinely like.
A man wants to feel special; he wants to feel like you have eyes for him and only him.
The objective of playing hard to get is to be semi-hard to acquire for the guy you like. Building his desire for you. And absolutely hard to get for every other guy.
That way, when the guy you actually like finally wins you over, he knows that you’re only interested in him.
Suppose you go to a club and you notice a guy from across the room, and he notices you, and he approaches you.
The guy buys you a drink, and you share a pleasant conversation, and by the end of the conversation, you exchange numbers.
He goes back to his friends, and you go back to your friends. But he occasionally glances in your direction and notices other men trying to get your number.
If you want to make the guy feel special, you would totally reject all the other men approaching you.
You could even score extra points with the guy if you glance in his direction every time another guy approaches you, as you reject them.
The Takeaway
Hopefully, you understand what you may or may not be doing wrong when you play hard-to-get.
In this post, you’ve learned the objective of being Hard-to-get, how to avoid attracting a man that doesn’t want anything serious, and how to Properly be Hard-to-get with a man.
Now all you have to do now is take action.
If you enjoyed this post, I think you will like my post, “How to Play Hard-to-get With a Guy You’ve had sex with. “
In this post, you will learn how to get a guy to chase you even after sleeping with him.
