You met this really great guy. He’s intelligent and handsome, and your chemistry is excellent. He piques your interest. After 3 months of seeing this guy, you decide to sleep with him.
The two of you share a night of passionate sex. Now, this great guy hasn’t called you in a few days, and when you hear from him, it’s because you reached out to him.
Before you had sex with this guy, he would take you out on dates. And now you haven’t seen him in weeks. What gives?! Why has his interest in you waned after sex?
In this article, I will explain the 5 reasons why guys lose interest after sleeping with you.
He was in Lust
When a guy is in lust, the man can confuse these feelings for real love. This often happens with men.
For example, if you are out with friends and a guy sees you, he’s instantly attracted to you physically.
So, he approaches you, and you all share an engaging conversation and exchange numbers.
You go on a few dates, and after each date, you leave a lasting impression on him, so much so that the guy thinks he’s falling for you.
You all have sex, and it becomes apparent to him that he was only physically into you.
The conversations aren’t engaging anymore, and things he thought you all had in common are actually differences.
There really isn’t much you can do about this, but allow enough time to get to know a guy before getting intimate.
He Just Wanted to Sleep with You.
This may shock you, especially if you felt he shared a connection with you, but he only wanted sex from you.
Before you call this guy a player or womanizer, that may not be the case.
Many men haven’t matured to the point that they’re ready to commit to someone.
I tell my wife often that we got together when I was at the right age and stage in my life to want to commit and settle down.
If I had met my wife in my 20s, our relationship would not have lasted.
So, don’t take it personally if the guy you like wants you for sex. View him for who he is, a guy that hasn’t matured into the man you need.
He isn’t that into You.
This will shock many women, but a man doesn’t have to like you to still sleep with you. For women, the physical and emotional attraction has to be there for a woman to have sex with a guy.
However, men aren’t the same. A man can be physically attracted to you but not emotionally attracted to you and can still sleep with you.
In these situations, the woman is physically desirable to the guy, but nothing else about the woman appeals to him.
I dated a woman that physically turned me on, with long legs, a beautiful face, and a tiny waist. But there was nothing else about her personality that attracted me.
Our conversations were bland, and she never seemed excited about anything, but I still wanted to have sex with her.
I ended the relationship because I was ready to settle down with someone that attracted me physically and emotionally. I also realized I didn’t like this woman. I was only seeing her for sex.
You’re Putting on the Pressure.
So, if you sleep with a guy after dating for a few months and pressuring him for a relationship, this will cause him to lose interest.
This is particularly true if you all haven’t discussed being in a relationship or the two of you don’t share similar relationship goals.
And believe it or not, several women date men without knowing their intentions for them.
After sex isn’t the time to press a guy for a relationship, the pressure only pushes men away.
You should know that a guy wants a relationship or something casual before sex.
He Regrets Having Sex with You.
When a guy regrets sleeping with a woman, it’s usually for 2 reasons.
First, your personality changed after sleeping together. If before sex, you were fun and layer back, but you have become needy after getting intimate.
Your personality change is a red flag that will turn men off. Guys are drawn to authentic women. The person you were before sex should be the same after.
Or second, the guy realizes that you all aren’t compatible. This reason is the same as the guy isn’t into you from above, so what I outlined there applies here.
Takeaway
There will be a lot of guys that will lose interest in you after intimacy. There are a plethora of reasons why.
In this post, I shared with you the 5 most common reasons men lose interest after sex.
- He was in Lust
- He Just Wanted to Sleep with You
- He Isn’t That into You
- You put pressure on Him.
- He Regrets Having Sex with You
What’s Important is that you don’t take it personally when he loses interest. Instead, take what you’ve learned and improve yourself for the man that’s perfect for you.
If you enjoyed this article, check out my post, When a Man Loves a Woman, 7 Ways He Shows It.
And learn the 7 subtle actions men show women when falling in love.
