You’ve just met the man of your dreams! He’s intelligent, charming, and good-looking. This guy checks all your boxes.
But a few months into the relationship, you begin to second guess yourself after your man reveals a few of his flaws.
Now you’re thinking he isn’t suitable for you. Before you can get to know this guy, you’re back in the dating pool, looking for someone perfect for you again.
In this post, you will learn how to stop looking for the perfect guy with 2 easy tips.
The Perfect Man is Made Up.
Here’s the problem with looking for the “perfect man.” He doesn’t exist. If you ask a woman to describe the perfect guy for herself, she would tell a man who checks all her idealized boxes.
The problem with having an unrealistic arbitrary list – you use to judge the compatibility of a mate – is when a good guy reveals his flaws, you’ll start to seek companionship elsewhere. Once Mr. Perfect starts looking human, you cut your losses.
You’ve been in 5 relationships in the past 3 years, with them ending the same, with you feeling resentful and misled by men you think misrepresented themselves.
However, the problem is you and your made-up “Perfect Guy.”
The Problem with a Made-Up Perfect Guy.
The danger with holding out for the perfect guy is you end up alone. No one wants to settle for someone less than ideal. Yet, guys don’t want to date a woman with unrealistic expectations.
But when you start a new relationship constantly evaluating a guy against your made-up perfect mate, you fail to appreciate all your current guy’s great qualities. There isn’t anyone that wants to feel unappreciated in a relationship. So, when men realize you’re taking them for granted, they will leave you.
Another problem with the perfect man is no one is perfect. It’s completely pointless looking for someone that doesn’t exist. Women that refuse to settle for a guy that’s right for them but instead pursue perfection – become women that cannot be satisfied.
Women that pursue perfection often begin to doubt their judgment when their perfect partners reveal their flaws.
But it doesn’t have to be this way; there is a solution.
Here’s How To Stop Looking for The Perfect Guy.
One solution is to realize that the perfect guy isn’t perfect. Every person has flaws and issues they are dealing with, including you. A big part of getting to know someone is allowing that person to be vulnerable and flawed around you.
If you’re so into perfection, guys can’t be themselves with you. Then you risk attracting men who look perfect but are horrible people. The men that check all your boxes but aren’t fulfilling partners. These men want women who meet all their needs but will not meet their needs in return.
When you realize no one is perfect, you change how you interact with your man in a relationship. Instead of rejecting his flaws, you understand that no guy is perfect, and relationships take work to make work.
Another solution is to realize that your perspective of men isn’t built on truth and reality.
Many times women don’t have positive examples of healthy relationships. Some women take blueprints of healthy relationships from television and movies. This is an issue because many women don’t realize these programs are heavily scripted, and authentic relationships aren’t what’s being shown on the big screen.
Genuine relationships consist of two flawed people – who are right for each other – working through their issues, becoming better people, and building a life together. The Perfect Guy isn’t perfect, but he will be perfect for you.
The Takeaway
The Perfect Guy doesn’t exist. When you go through life looking for your perfect match, you risk missing out on the men in front of you.
In this post, you learned how to stop looking for the perfect guy by realizing the ideal guy isn’t perfect, and your idea of the guy of your dreams isn’t built on reality.
Now that you’ve learned how to stop looking for perfection in a mate, it’s time to apply what you’ve learned. Stop looking for perfection and start looking for the right guy for you.
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